A thought stroked me one day when considering human tendencies of boasting and being humble as two opposites. I was just imagining the importance of appreciation in a human life. A person knows from the start of his life, that he will die one day and leave with nothing that he has collected here. Of course Heaven and Hell is a separate Philosophy. Still He has an option of how hard he strives for getting his work done. There are some really hard moments where he can give up any time and leave anything, which is a very easy way, and another to accept the challenge and go for the hard work to achieve the goal but for what? The part I believe is that one gains satisfaction for his work when he is appreciated by the society or at least someone he knows or don’t know. Or he may get appreciated one day in future when people will know about his work. Yet he works.
Now consider a scenario, where a person is really knowledgeable, knows many things that others don’t know, but he doesn’t display them either cause there is no opportunity for him to display or because he is modest or cause he is shy. So the knowledge or the skill that he has doesn’t get appreciated, and there becomes a hole somewhere that needs to be filled. Then comes the action taken by the person depending on his/her personality. Either it is by being a boaster, speaking of himself wherever he gets or doesn’t get a change, or
creating an opportunity for himself to display his skill even though when it wasn’t required. All this urgency can be controlled if people around him appreciate his work. This can be done by constantly praising people for their work as the sense of appreciation is a great driver of feelings and actions that shape a persons life.
Now consider the difference between what we call a boaster, and a humble person. What the primary difference between them is just that one of them, the humble one, has his sense of appreciation satisfied, either by people knowing what he does or by a sense of content that he is doing great and one day people will know and appreciate it. On the other hand, who we call a boaster, is actually facing an internal crisis of whether or not to continue the hard effort that he puts in to get a skill, when he is getting nothing in return. Its hard to believe, but a single word of appreciation makes a lot of difference for a person facing this kind of internal crisis.
Clearly, people have learn to fight bad with bad and good with good, but as a matter of fact, what we call as good, can handle a little bad, and what we call as bad can be changed by the little good we do. Big word but in sense of simplicity are very easy to accomplish. That’s where the concept of praise comes from. Clearly a person does no gain to himself by
praising others work, but just for a gesture of appreciation of the work. But we seldom fail to appreciate less talented but very hard work, which needs to change. Clearly a single lne of praise cannot do any harm, but can make a day for the praisee. Some great word that left a mark on me were..
“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” By Albert Schweitzer
“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not forget you.” By William Arthur